Programme Update

It is 12months since I started fundraising for Zak and what a year it has been!!

Zak’s programme has cost £29,200 so far. The majority has been raised by ourselves, my family, the generosity of another family and the rest by fundraising by me and my sister and kind donations from friends.

This money has allowed me to train and set up a home based programme for Zak, daily OT exercises, 3 monthly visits to an autism specialist and weekly special needs tutor.

Zak has loved his therapy room where we have been able to use his motivation to bring him on, reducing meltdowns, increasing communication and allowing Zak to thrive in an environment he feels safe and in control.

His daily exercises which are tedious and relentless have shown a 24% increase in brain function in 9 months (without any intervention this would be expected to be 2%)

Zak’s autism specialist makes sure Zak is on the correct supplements and the rest of his health is in tip top condition.

As for Zak’s tutor…..what can I say…… I was told he would be unlikely to read…..he can read the newspaper!!!! 1+1 =5…..he now knows his number bonds up to 10….

We are overjoyed with Zak’s progress and none of it would be possible without this fundraising.

We are about to go into our 2nd year of our 3 year plan and we would like to expand Zak’s therapy room sessions, taking on more workers so Zak gets more social interactions with different personalities.

His daily exercises and weekly tutors will continue and we would like to include some cranial work by the fab Phillip Owen in Gatley.

Zak will leave his current school at Christmas and after a long battle will start at a high functioning Autism School in Church Lawton. Watch this space on the progress I believe he will make in an environment which is correct for him.

Our next fundraising is our September walk of the Monopoly Board in London and I thank anyone in advance who is able to donate…..

Lots of Love & Hope

Trish xxxxxx​


After spending a week in Sardinia with 3 special needs kids and not being able to manage and control all situations it got me thinking!!

We had meltdowns, anxiety and full on rudeness and very early on in the week discovered that we could spend 7 days spinning plates and returning home exhausted or just let that shit go and drink gin!!

It was THE easiest carefree week we have ever had in the past 10years….refreshing, empowering and we left Sardinia more refreshed than we have ever been!

Deciding to try this technique once again, here we are in Isle of Wight. Apart from having “BOTHERED” tattooed on my forehead, we couldn’t be doing a better job of it if we tried!!

Not catching every strangers eye to apologise, explain or worry has put me us in a tranquil state and I bloody love it!!!! So much more time and energy to enjoy this lovely little island, laugh and more importantly talk to my hubby! It has seriously been a little bit of “hi…where have you been hiding”.

So to any special needs parents out there who feel exhausted with the constant management of your child and the world around you I urge you to go somewhere no one knows you, with people who you will never see again and just do it! Let people stare, whisper and be judgemental….who cares!!! If you can’t afford or face a holiday, do a day trip. You will feel empowered, strong and in control of your responses. You will never be able to explain your situation, child and difficulties in one sentence so don’t even try. You don’t need to do anything.

Remember….those who matter don’t care and those who care don’t matter.

You’ve Got This

Trish xxxx

One Year On….

One year on since we stopped all medication for Zak so here is our update……

My fear flying to Spain last year knowing that Zak had just taken his last Ritalin was softened by knowing a had a secret stash packed deeply in my case and convinced myself that I could sneak him one and bribe him not to tell his Dad. My plan the following morning didn’t even get off the ground as the realisation of Zaks inability to keep a secret dawned on me. Pure honesty comes with Autism and this has its plus’ and minus’. I adore how he has never told a lie. Telling the man at the Esso garage he looks like Mrs Brown and needs to learn his manners, not so much.

Anyway I spent the whole of last summer being a child phycologist watching his every move, analysing him and having a constant game of ping pong in my head.

The downs to no meds….

Zak gained 3 stone
No 3hr morning respite

The ups to no meds….

Morning alertness
Better communicator
Healthier eater
Better complexion
Toxin free

Ok the 3 stone has been hard to handle, however he was 1 stone underweight to begin with and he has grown 9 cm so in my head he was 1.5 stone over so over the past 3 months we have addressed that and managed to get 18 pounds off him but as I try and join him as much as possible I too have benefited from this!

I have dealt with the lack of respite with a dog! This has proved the best therapy for Zak. Reggie has increased his responsibility, taught him boundaries and given Zak a purpose!

His communication has improved significantly. He is more able to tell me his feelings and what he is struggling with and learnt many techniques to help him including breathing exercises and yoga!

I trained as an aromatherapist 29 years ago but not practised for the last 20, Zak has reignited that passion and I can honestly say they have been life changing for him, school actually want them as part of his day! If you come within 3 foot of me I get you with a rollerball for any ailment.

Zak has also had is Sats this year and I am proud to say I blankly refused for him to participate! How can u take a standardised test for an anything but standard mind??? You wouldn’t ask a fish to climb a tree!! Zak may not know his maths anywhere like his peers but he would give any Olympian a run for their money at javelin!! He’s proving to be a little Jamie Oliver in the kitchen and his knowledge on coronation street characters dating back before he was born is immense!! Please let’s starts measuring all the special qualities of our kids and not just the standard ones!!!!

The bottom line to Zak being better on or off meds and my advice to anyone who has tried them and failed is this….

You never really have a full picture of what your dealing with on meds. They mask the child, his abilities and his personality. How can we give them skills to deal with their issues if you can’t see what they are? I plan to do a protocol for any parents considering the alternative route so please get in touch with any questions.

In the meantime it really is the best decision we ever made and as for Zaks non standard mind….who wants to be remembered as bloody normal anyway 🐟



All week Zak has been on the brink of a meltdown, unhappy, angry and generally out of sorts.  Not allowing him to totally dictate our Easter we ventured out for a family Pub Lunch on Saturday.  After  10 minutes of playing musical chairs navigated by Zak everyone is pretty confident that he will settle (next to my gorgeous Mum and opposite me). I on the other hand am not convinced.   A look he gives me, the way he orders his food and his unsettledness tells me he is anxious and unhappy.

Armed with colouring and my iPhone we make it through our lunch.  Zak kept making an exaggerated sniffing noise, like you may have when full of a cold.  The lady who was sat behind him (she was sat side onto him) tutted, bitched and then to really make her point stood up and moved her chair so she had her back to him.  My first reaction is one to leap over the table and shame her ignorance.  When I am on my own with Zak I do not hold back on educating these people, however not wanting to embarrass my whole family I say nothing.  This allows me the time and space to reflect on why someone would be so rude to a young boy.

Why would she know he had Autism?  I too have huffed and puffed at what I believe to be a badly behaved or rude child.  You don’t know…..until you live it or know someone who does.

Zak woke up on Easter Sunday so poorly with a sore throat and bad cough so was obviously feeling rubbish the last few days.   His understanding is different to a neuro typical child and he is  unable to communicate his exact feelings and can do this via his behaviour.  Maybe the sniffing wasn’t some annoying tic but more of something not feeling quite right in his throat.

So as today is World Autism Awareness Day I pray for people to not have a total understanding but to try, please try not to judge our kids who are struggling with the world around them.

If they appear to be giving you or me a hard time…..they are having a harder time.  If us Mums appear anxious…..they are more anxious.  If you are struggling in their company trust me they are struggling a whole lot more in yours!!!!!


Trish xxx


images.jpegWell its that time of year again when we have a solid 6 weeks with Zak and without the craziness of school runs, pack lunches and the daily grind, it gives us the time to refocus, regroup and plan for Zaks year ahead.

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Zaks medication has given me 4 hours of peace a day, taking him down a couple of notches which allows me to do all the above with some kind of normal.  One hour after taking it, my home resembles some of what a house with 3 kids in it does……busy!!!  Without it……carnage!!

The comedown from Ritalin is unpleasant, Zaks mood adjusting from “on it to normal”. We get anger, frustration and general misery and I think in my mind this is what we would encounter all day without it.  Never-mind Zak becoming dependant on it, it has been my crutch.

Zak takes the minimum dose of his medication but every CAMHS appointment we are offered higher, being told due to his growth he “could probably do with more” and then a minimum dose of melatonin every night to counteract the Ritalin to allow him to sleep.  All this is handed out to you with no parent warning on the bottle……GUILT!! Ritalin is a controlled drug, which basically means “a potential for abuse or addiction”.   This is not just your baby, but your baby who is struggling to cope with the world around them and although I am not against medication in the short term, stratagies and coping skills need to be taught.

I totally believe it has played a positive part of our journey, 3 years ago when Zak was unable to sit and learn and take in knowledge that he would so desperately need in his younger years.  However since then he has grown, we have worked so hard with his home based programme that maybe just maybe it was worth a shot.

So one week ago we boarded a plane with an extra suitcase full of aromatherapy oils, plug in vaporisers, crystals, supplements and rescue remedy, repeating my mantra…..we can always change our minds.


What are the changes I have seen?  His appetite is back in full force and I have to keep a constant eye on it.  Although he has more energy in the morning this is consistent throughout the day, taking no dips or sudden outbursts.  His OCD is definatly better and the glazed look has gone.  He has managed to still do his independent reading and lego building and his attention is no different and I believe his engagement is better and the guilt from me has vanished.

So will I continue on this holistic lifestyle for Zak or crumble???  At the moment I will say we will continue but I maybe more equipped to answer that at the end of the summer holidays!

You can continue watching Zaks summer on Instagram – tothemoonandzak

And one last thing……don’t forget your own medicine………WINE!!!!

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Thanks for reading xxxxx


Cool To Be Kind

While spending a morning ironing I have caught up on all the reality trash tv I have missed!!

It occurred to me that the message we are now sending our kids is that it is cool to be unkind.

This is of huge concern to me, having a child who is vulnerable to this kind of behaviour. I cannot express enough the importance of the messages we are sending out to our kids and as social media and reality tv is letting our us down, I ask you the parent to give another message.

I am not asking for your child to devote their whole time befriending the “odd” kid in the playground, I know more than anyone how challenging this can be. A simple hello, smile can be enough to raise the self esteem of another.
I ask you…..Would it really spoil your child’s party to invite that kid to their birthday? What would have little effect on your child’s party has huge positive impact on these kids who are left out of…..everything!

Yes I said everything.

A lot of these kids go through their whole childhood without one single friend.
Imagine….that level of loneliness, never feeling noticed or accepted and watching a bunch of kids around you having a nice time. No you can’t because it unimaginable….but it is real!!

On a typical day in our playground I can count 4 neuro typical children who acknowledge my child. There are over 400 kids in our school!!! I am so thankful for these 3 little stars….even when my child blanks them, the next day, there they are again with their warm smiles and open hearts. You my darlings will go far ❤

There is a great website which gives fab ideas on how to incorporate kindness into their lives.

I tell my kids that when YOU are kind, the main beneficiary is YOU!

Be Kind…..Always

Always be a łlittle kinder than necessary.

Help spread the word…’s cool to be kind 💙